Many people struggle with the idea of what their purpose is in everything they do. Before leaving for this trip, several people had asked me: "You're only there for 3 weeks, are you really going to make a difference?" This created an inner battle with myself on what I was trying to accomplish here in Kolkata, and if my presence was really needed. People said "You know, the money you spent to go to India could've all been donated and helped those kids more than you being there for a few weeks." And that just added more fuel to the fire building within me.
After the first couple of days here, our group reflected on this topic, and we began getting down on ourselves, questioning how much we're actually helping the people we're working with. Then I stumbled upon something Mother Teresa had once said that beautifully put into words why doing service and helping others, no matter how long for, is needed:
"Let us not be satisfied with just giving money. Money is not enough, money can be got, but they [the poor] need your hearts to love them. So, spread your love everywhere you go."
No amounts of money can make these people feel loved or wanted, the way human interaction can. Since my time at Shishu Bavan, an orphanage for children with mental and physical disabilities, I have worked with many children who suffer from extreme Cerebral Palsy and unresponsiveness. Every morning when I walk into my first shift, the kids just look blank, staring out into space, laying in their chairs alone. As the volunteers begin to wake the kids by rubbing their limbs, singing little tunes, playing with their hair, something magical begins to happen. Sad eyes begin to fill with light. The corners of frowning mouths begin to curl up as they fight back laughter. Heads turn to face these monsters bringing all this happiness, and the atmosphere changes completely. This is why we are here. Because even for 3 weeks, these kids are getting full, undeviated attention and love that they weren't getting before.
To be able to make someone smile is truly the greatest gift of all, and I can't help but wonder how much better this world would be if we strived to do that just a little more often. Like my mom always says, be someone's sunshine on a cloudy day.
Namaskaar,
Kate Messitidis
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ReplyDeleteYou are all incredible beings,and because of you I have faith for the future and for humanity. Namaskar my beautiful soul:)
ReplyDeleteWell said! Thank you for sharing your touching experiences.
ReplyDeleteKate, the comment below is from Dave Shore, he was having problems uploading his comment to you:
ReplyDeleteThere is no cause for self doubt. Money is vital, but it is a proxy for compassion, sent by those who are not willing or able to do what you are doing; bringing true compassion. Money can't smile, can't laugh, can't reach someone's soul. Don't forget though; these children are not the only ones who's life is being changed through this experience. Your soul is also being touched; your worldview changed. Is this important to these children? Yes!! You now have the power of experience. you can bring your passion and your stories to others. This will open other hearts, and will help you become more generous through your lives. in the long run, this may be the most important.